This is not my usual blog post where I ramble on and on about my day or what I did…okay sortof. This is more about something I saw today that shocked and angered me…
I was going back to my dorm and ran into an elevator with people I don’t know from another program (which I will not name) and among them was a guy I had talked to once before a couple of days ago (let’s call him John Doe). “John” said hi to me and started asking about my day, I responded telling him some of the details when I was interrupted by a comment by one of the guys in the back. He started mimicking “John” and making fun of him right in front of him, after this “John” simply exited the elevator without any comment just making a joke to me as he left. After he left the guys started laughing and making fun of him murmuring a derogatory word starting with F under their breath…
Before I could say anything we were on my floor and I simply exited speechless I regret not having said anything.
I was truly shocked by this because I believed that our generation was better than this….I mean honestly people we have a president that supports gay marriage. Why can’t we see that everyone is a human being and no one deserves to be treated like that….
I do not and will not pretend to know that boy’s sexual orientation but I do know that no one should ever feel like being who they are is wrong. As Obama put it “No one in America should ever be afraid to walk down the street holding hands with the person they love.”
One thing that continues to plague my mind: this incident took place at a educational function. Have we not always been taught to uphold a safe learning environment? Why then is this student being picked on and compromising his security?
Regardless of his orientation, let’s take a glance at this from a psychological perspective. This student that was singled out recognized the simplest mechanism: fight or flight. I can assume the kid was of a mild mannered nature and did not want to cause trouble in such close quarters, so he chose the latter route of flight. He played, sadly, the role of the victim. My advice for N is to learn to stand up for himself eventually and never let bullies get to their head.
As for the group identified as the others, there is an obvious mob mentality at work here. People laughed because that’s what the general consensus was. That was the “cool” thing to do. The young men that were responsible for making the initial comments are not men at all, but insecure little boys that are in need of attention and take pride in making others feel uncomfortable. People like this have a place in the world, but it is not in functioning society where many forms of alternative living are present.
If you’re going to criticize somebody for something like their sexual orientation, put yourself in their shoes. For example, the way that it was best explained to me: if you are the only straight person at a party where majority of the people are gay or lesbian, and everyone is calling you out for being different. How are you going to feel?
Just food for thought.
-Alexa & Taylor